Feelin’ SoFabulous for SoFabCon {#SoFabulous #cbias}


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In case you haven’t noticed it’s been rather quiet around the Mama Report for quite some time.  Last April I started working full-time as an independent contractor for my favorite blogging company, Collective Bias.  For months I worked almost exclusively recruiting new members into our community Social Fabric, but in November I was hired as a manager within the company itself.  I love my job.  It’s intense and fast-paced, both aspects that I tend to thrive on.  I greatly enjoy the detailed work, but I also love interacting with my fellow co-workers and community members. Ironically, I have never actually met most of these people.  Last year our community sponsored it’s first conference SoFabCon.  I missed out.  Unfortunately, I was tied to a previous commitment for my son’s preschool. This year?! Obviously, come hell or high water- I’m going! I can’t wait to meet so many fellow managers and Social Fabric members that I’ve come to count on.  If you are a blogger get the scoop on SoFabCon


To help me prepare for this epic meeting, I’ve joined together with a group of ladies who are focusing on Feelin’ SoFabulous for SoFabCon.  Our objectives are personal, but at the heart of each story is a passion to improve our lives for the better in anticipation of our big get-together.  So what’s my plan? How am I looking to be SoFabulous for SoFabCon?  

My goals are twofold.  

  • Log some miles on my dusty treadmill 
  • Find peace of mind in the midst of change and unpredictability

The first goal is pretty simple and obvious. Run.  Running. I have been a casual runner off and on for a number of years. I’m definitely not competitive. I run for exercise, to help with stress, and to clear my head. Yesterday, I saw a man running in the Minnesota 5 degree temperature.  I’m not one of these people.  Let me assure you, I’m a pampered runner.  I run exclusively with an iPod, in my basement on my treadmill, with a fan blowing sweet breezes my way.  How may miles have I logged in 2014? One. One mile.  Clearly, I’ve got my work cut out for me.  


But what about peace of mind?  In the midst of working full-time and raising three rambunctious little boys my husband and I are also moving.  He currently commutes over four a day to-and-from work, therefore our house is currently FOR SALE.  Again, this might not seem so awful to some, but for me it is the worst.  Five years ago we moved into our current house with the thought that we would live here forever.  Our yard is like a park, our house is big and roomy, we have two gas fireplaces for snowy Minnesota winters, and my kitchen is bright and cheerful.  Now we are moving.  I’ve accepted that reality, but I’ve been scarred by the process.  When we sold our last home (which was our first purchased house) it took over a year.  I had two little boys and eventually became pregnant for a third time.  I foolishly believed that our house would sell.  I really had no idea.  Obviously, the market was not ideal and we lived by an old cemetery (which we found peaceful, but apparently most people do not!)  By the time our house did sell and we did move, I was FINISHED.  I said many times, “I’m never moving again”, not because I loved our new house so much, but because I knew I couldn’t possibly ever go through that process again.  But nonetheless here I am. 

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So my goal, in addition to increasing my running activity, is peace of mind to feelin’ sofabulous for SoFabCon.  To live is to change.  I am working hard to remove my expectations regarding our current situation.  Instead I am embracing the moment.  I focus upon my tasks at hand and I am attempting to remove my speculations and worries.  Being more experienced and potentially wiser this time around, I know how little is actually in my control.  My control only exists in my ability to perceive events around me.  Focusing upon the past (which I have a tendency to do) or speculating about the future isn’t helpful. My thoughts and actions are best served in each particular moment.  Am I mediating?  Not really, not formally. I don’t have time for that!:) Instead I am being mindful. My head is always in a constant state of analysis. Being selective over my thoughts is key.  When SoFabCon comes around in May and if our house isn’t sold yet, I want to be still livin’ in the moment.  I don’t want to be drained by the what if’s and the could have’s and the should have’s.  I want to know that I’ve accomplished what I need to without emotion and expectations.  

Wish me luck, cause ladies, it sure is hard to embrace the moment when you have screaming children and a house that must be perfectly clean almost at all times!

Check back next month for an updated status report! 

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  1. I have 3 boys too. I totally get the screaming kids and don’t forget the wrestling.

  2. A piece of mind is great to have. I remember my Papaw telling me he finally found his at the age of 83. That’s too long to wait, isn’t it? Good luck with your running goal…keep it up. I love that house by the way!!

  3. I know what it’s like to have a lot of change going on. You almost feel as if you can’t function anymore at one point. So much of ourselves is wrapped up in routine and everything that we have going on. One tiny bit of change and it feels like we have things crashing down.

    I am learning to just BE and that is SO hard for me 🙂

  4. Moving before I get to see the ‘new’ house… 🙁 Thinking of you everyday and knowing that you are doing an awesome job juggling everything! You are amazing. 🙂

  5. Oh my! I don’t know how you are doing it all! We just moved and my world is spinning! Our house back home is still on the market. Oh the stress! I am so happy for you in all of your success! You are doing a fabulous job! I am excited to see your progress over the next few months and then see you in Bentonville in May! YAY! 🙂 Have a great week!

    • Alicia Kirby says

      Thank Heather!:) I can’t wait to see you in May too!:) Nothing like a good move to make your world spin!:) We’ll have to trade stories!

  6. Buying and selling houses is such hard work and very stressful!!! Especially when you really love your house. So sorry!!! I know due your husband’s commute it’s a necessity. I hope you can work on feeling less stressed and the running should help with that too!

    • Alicia Kirby says

      Thanks Kristin:) I know our next chapter will be exciting in fun, it’s just so hard to be patient waiting that moment to come!

  7. It took a serious car accident to find my peace and get my thoughts together. I think it’s a huge wonderful step that you’re focusing on this NOW instead of putting it off. Can’t wait to see you in May.

  8. I love your goals girl! I am so excited to meet you in real life, as a bunch of the other members of the SoFab team! 🙂

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